Mistakes

I recently got back from camping with Andus. Couldn't sleep one night and thought of all the mistakes with romance I've made in my life. Might as well list them here because instead of letting the past be the past I'm letting the past consume and destroy my self esteem. Well, I say that, but it's not like I had any self esteem regarding dating left! I regret... 

1. Not finding out who it was that liked me in elementary school. I'm pretty sure I know who it was but still. 1994 
2. Not trying to press things further with Hannah Kim. I'm not certain, but I think she would have dated me. 2002
3. Not trying to press things further with the girl who purposefully waved to me and then ran away at the sock hop. Is there a bigger hint than that that she wanted to talk to me? 2002
4. In college, when sitting at the table with those Chinese girls who mentioned that two girls would be better than two guys when it came to raising a kid, not making conversation with them. This probably would not have led to a date, but who knows what I missed out on. 2005
5. Not making more of an effort with Tina H., although after looking her up I notice she's removed me off FB, so it probably wouldn't have led to anything. It was nice having her tell me she liked my voice though. 2006?
6. Not trying harder with Vyvie. Again, I doubt this would have gone anywhere, but I gave up way too easily. 2009?
7. Not being a bit more aggressive with Shima and more accomodating with Ryouko. 2011
8. Not being more interactive with Machiko. 2013
9. Not just asking Chihiro to hang out and date. 2011
10. Not being less silly with Hiroko. 2019

I hate that my self is not desirable to women.

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