Tired

 2 hours hasn't said anything to me since Thursday and it's now Sunday afternoon.  Before that it was nearly 2 days since she responded.  She stopped sending pictures and memes a week ago.  She was attending an event this weekend, but she's uploaded stories to Facebook so it's not like she didn't have time to respond.  She also viewed my messages soon after I sent them and has been on messenger plenty of times (I check a lot because I'm dumb).  I'm pretty sure I'm just being ghosted at this point.

I wish I could take the angle of me just overthinking things, but this is always how it goes.  I wish I could find a girl who is as interested in talking to me as I am talking to her.  This girl likes anime, video games and Asian guys and I had a month and a half of chatting and couldn't even secure a date.  She even liked me first on FB dating.  This is the most disappointing one that got away.  If I couldn't even secure a date with someone who I relate to so much, how can I do it with anyone else?  My difficulties in connecting with people strikes again, and my confidence and self-esteem take another hit.  It hurts less than I thought, probably because it's not surprising, but it does sting.  I'll be picking up the pieces for some time from this one.

If anyone reads this, instead of ghosting, please at least just unmatch/block if you are done with someone.  The false hope is just killer.

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